What is a 'Sister'?
by Kathleen Turner, Florida State
Something you learn by having a sibling is sharing. My little sister and I have shared toys, clothes, friends, schools, teachers and after school activities, and yet for most of our lives, we have been competitors instead of friends.
When I went to college, things started to change.
Being the older sister means that I have led the way in new experiences. I was the first to walk, talk and read. I was the first to ride the bus, go to school and get a driver’s license. And, most importantly, I was the first to graduate from high school and leave the nest.
It was then that we both realized what a constant we had been in each other’s lives. We have always been just one doorway down from each other. When I left for college, I was truly alone for the first time.
I went through Membership Recruitment because I wanted to meet genuine, kind girls that I could call my friends, not just for four years, but for the rest of my life. I joined Kappa because I felt welcome. I felt like each and every girl truly wanted to get to know me and be my friend. Every sister is unique, which means that every girl has something different to share with the chapter.
When Liz decided to come to Florida State and go through Recruitment, I was conflicted. Like Florida State, Kappa was something I desperately wanted to share with Liz, but I knew she wanted to stand on her own and not be in my shadow. She didn’t want to be “Kathleen’s little sister.” She wanted to be Liz.
I was more emotional during Liz’s Recruitment than my own. She is so independent and confident that I have never needed to be very protective of her. That week, I realized the full extent of my love for my little sister. At the end of the week, Liz chose Kappa. The values she and I have shared our entire lives led her home to the blue and blue.
She is my legacy because we are both fiercely loyal to our friends, love life and those around us passionately, and value friendship deeply. Kappa has brought us closer together than I ever thought possible. No one thinks of Liz as my little sister, but instead, my best friend. She does not live in my shadow, but walks beside me as an equal, and I have never been more willing to share something with her in my entire life.